Freedom from Old Patterns: How an EMDR Therapy Intensives Can Help You Change Long-Standing Patterns in Less Time
You long standing patterns can make you feel like you are stuck on the same carousel 🎠 : round and round you go, the same loop, the same actions, the same consequences. Maybe you struggle with:
💪🏽hyper-independence: you are exhausted from the load that you carry and feel like all of the responsibility falls on you but you look up and there is no one around to share the burden because no one around you knows what you need, is used to you expressing your needs, and you are so afraid of what would happen if you let some of these things drop that no one else sees the need to really take the responsibility on.
⚓ self-sabotage: every time you find more peace, more joy, more ease, or more goodness in your life it seems like suddenly there is a new urgent goal that must be attended to, an accomplishment that just cannot wait, a person you absolutely need to pour all of your time into taking care of, or something you just have to worry about or get consumed with that gets in the way. Your nervous system is so not used to well-being that it seeks a certain level of distress because it is familiar and in a strange way feels safe.
🏃🏽♀️ self-abandonment: your needs and desires have been at the bottom of your priority list for so long that moving them up a few spaces seems like a dream. You wish you could, you want to, but you don’t even know where to start because it feels like this is just the nature of your life.
🌩️ lashing out or shutting down during conflict: it feels like conflict is ruining your relationships. You find yourself saying things you don’t mean, expressing anger in ways that don’t help you or your relationships, and feeling out of control when discussions get hard. Maybe you go to the opposite end of the spectrum and you find it almost impossible to express yourself, your needs, your desires during conflict. You get quiet and are tired of not being able to advocate for yourself.
🔒 challenges opening up in relationships: you crave intimacy, deeper connection, to truly be known in your relationships but something keeps getting in the way
This can be especially confusing when you have a lot of the element you need to make change.
You have awareness: you know that you want to make changes, you know these patterns are harming you, your relationships, or people around you, and you know you want to do things differently. You may also have some awareness about where this pattern is coming from.
You have the desire to change: you want things to be different and you are willing to put in the work to make that happen
You have tried to will or pressure your want into change: you have applied effort and tried so many things to make yourself change this pattern.
Yet somehow, it is not enough!
This is Where a Therapy Intensive Can Help
EMDR and somatic therapy intensives can help to significantly shift long-standing patterns in days or weeks instead of years. Often times when we have these patterns that have been stuck for so long there are traumatic, adverse, painful, or unresolved experiences that have aught us this is how we have to be to stay safe or move forward. Our nervous systems have deeply adapted to these patterns to point that we automatically respond to stressor or challenges in these protective ways. Intensives are immersive, deep-dives that help you to understand, reprocess, and transform the experiences that hold these patterns in place.
What makes an intensive different than traditional therapy is:
Uninterrupted time to work through challenges without the start and stop of weekly one-hour sessions
Dedicated times to working through root issues instead of spending the majority of sessions catching up or getting sidetracked with the most recent challenge of the week or month
Highly customizable sessions with lengths and frequency based on your goals, your needs, and your schedule- we can meet for 3-4 hours over the course of 3-4 days or 2 hours twice a week for 4 weeks in a row… whatever will work for you!
If you are interested in a consultation, get on the waitlist for a therapy intensive today or click here to learn more about them!
Here is A Long Standing Pattern I See So Many Client’s Come In With
The “Good Girl” standard or persona is a long-standing pattern I have seen many clients struggle with. In this video I break down the persona, how it shows up, why so many women conform to it, and how you can start to break free.
